Christmas is a stressful/busy time
We feed off of the energy and information around us but the rate at which we are absorbing this information and energy is too much overwhelm for our emotional self to process. We are not giving our system the opportunity to embody what emotional processing we need. There fore we remain in a state of stress until the crash on Christmas day or just before when we finish work.
How do we support ourselves to slow down enough to emotionally process and absorb what is really going on for us?
How often are we checking in with ourselves rather than being carried away with what is happening around us?
As parents December can be bittersweet, its often a time of business, rushing around, remembering everything, planning everything and we can often at xmas find ourselves grieving over what or who is unable to be around us at this time of year because we are often faced with the fact that Christmas is the time for family to be together.
Its a tough job at Christmas being responsible for creating and sharing so much cheer. What do we do when we are not feeling that cheer?
How often do we give ourselves the grace to accept and be with the fact that its too much?
Understanding how much pressure we place on ourselves at this time of year is so critical in being able to prevent festive burnout.
Do you ever get to December and the all the while the month is go go go…… then comes the emotional crash of…. Okay we made it, it’s Christmas Day. But then we have boxing day, a few straggle days with getting around families or friends or just existing in a space in-between.
Then we are all planning and going again for new years. I wonder if the reason January is noted the bluest month of the year because after all the rushing and business, when our emotional selves have time to process and absorb what has transpired all through December and beginning of Jan, it gives that flood of emotions that we have been avoiding in order to get things done.
When we look at what is happening within the body during these high peaks and low valleys of emotional turmoil we can recognise the fight or flight system is the driver.
We are so busy that we don’t feel honestly, we just survive focussing on what’s next, what’s next. So many activities so many places to be, things to do, so little time. I often hear myself wishing Christmas holidays were longer and the summer Holidays shorter.
When I reflect on the why of this….. I think its because I recognise the emotional turmoil and the dishonour to my boundaries that I usually have in place usually.
So what is it about the holiday season that has us feeling less able to put in boundaries?
Is it because we get caught up in the energy and collective stress? Are we really doing what we want to be doing or are we being monopolised?
What are your thoughts? Are you caught up on the festive stress?